हर लड़की की तरह नेहा के भी अपनी शादी और ससुराल को लेके बचपन से ही काफी सपने थे और आज पहली बार वो अपने ससुराल में कदम रख रही थी।
नेहा के पति ऋषि का भरा पूरा परिवार है 5 भाई बहन और बहुत से रिश्तेदार सब एक साथ रहते है वहीं नेहा मां पिता के प्यार में पली बढ़ी इकलौती संतान होने के नाते उसने कभी अपने घर पे इतने लोग देखे नहीं थे। उसने सोचा कि शायद उसे भाई बहन का भी प्यार मिल जाएगा।
ऋषि से नेहा ने अपने माता – पिता के इक्षा के विरुद्ध जा के शादी की थी उसकी मां ने बार बार समझाया था कि जिस घर को वो चुन रही है वहां जिम्मेदारी और रूढ़िवादी परंपराओं के अलावा कुछ नहीं है पर नेहा को समझ नई आया।
अपने ससुराल में घुसते ही सबने उसे बताया कि यहां घर के पुरुषों के सामने घूंघट ओढ़ कर चलना होता है और उनसे दूरी भी बना के रखना होता है। उसने कभी अपने घर में बचपन में अपने दादी को ऐसे घूंघट ओढ़े देखा था पर समय के साथ ये परंपरा चली गई थी।
ससुराल में आके उसे पता चला कि उसका कोई अपना कमरा तक नहीं है। पति से दूर हर रात दूसरी औरतों के साथ सो सो के परेशान होने लगी। उसे समझ में आने लगा कि उसकी मां कितनी दूरदर्शी और सही थी। बहू को ससुराल में घुसते ही मिलने लगा जिम्मेदारियों का ज्ञान पर एक नई बहू के सुख और सुभिधा का किसी ने नहीं सोचा।
कभी नेहा के घूंघट नहीं ओढ़ने पे पीठ पीछे बुराई होने लगी तो कभी कोई हर बात पे उसके पति से जा के शिकायत लगाने लगा। जिनके खुद के घर नहीं बसे और जो अपने ससुराल में पैर पटक के आयी वो सभी औरतें भी नेहा को अपनी अच्छाई के प्रमाण पत्र, ज्ञान और ताने देते नजर आए।
सबने बताया कि उसका ये ससुराल बहुत अच्छा है और ज्यादा पाबंदी भी नहीं पर नेहा तो शायद दूसरे ग्रह से है जहां के लोग इज्जत देते है, बहू कि सुख सूभिधा का ध्यान रखते है, जहां बहू को लक्ष्मी माना जाता है।
नेहा को यहां कई चेहरे दिखे, बिन पैदी के लोटे दिखे जो की एक जगह से सुनके दूसरी जगह लुढ़कते रहते, पंचायत करने वाले,अपनी सुभीधा देखने वाले, दूसरो पे आरोप लगाने वाले और सबसे बढ़ी बात पूरा घर एक दूसरे पे कीचड़ उछालने में लगा रहता और फिर उसी कीचड़ में एक साथ गले मिला के रहते थे।
इन सब के बीच बस एक चीज अच्छी थी नेहा के लिए वो है ऋषि।
उसे एक समझदार और अच्छा पति मिला था पर क्या नेहा इतनी सारी घर कि जिम्मेदारी उठा पाएगी?
क्या नेहा को चुपचाप सुनना चाहिए?
क्या ये कोलाहल वाला ससुराल नेहा के दांपत्य जीवन को प्रभावित करेगा?
हाल ही में मैंने एक मुस्लिम लड़की का वीडियो देखा, जिसने भारत की देवी और देवी को बुरा-भला कहा और यह इस वीडियो के बारे में नहीं है कि हम हर रोज लोगों को बुरी बातें कहते और सांप्रदायिकता को बढ़ाते हुए पाते हैं।
अनुच्छेद 19 के अनुसार, प्रत्येक नागरिक बोलने की स्वतंत्रता का अधिकार है और भाव व्यक्त करने का अधिकार है लेकिन उचित प्रतिबंधों के अधीन संरक्षण के अंतर शालीनता और नैतिकता को बरकरार रखते हुए है।
अनुच्छेद 28 किसी भी शैक्षणिक संस्थान में किसी भी धार्मिक निर्देश को पूर्ण रूप से प्रतिबंधित करता है, जिसे राज्य निधियों से बाहर रखा जाता है।
लेकिन क्या हम इसका सख्ती से पालन कर रहे हैं?
भारत में राजनीतिक प्रवचन ने हमेशा से ही आमंत्रित किया है सांप्रदायिकता पर बहस, नफरत और हिंसा को और बहुत से लोग इसपे घी डालते रहे है।
अक्सर हम देखते हैं कि लोग अधिकारों का दुरुपयोग करते हैं, हर रोज हम उन पोस्टों और टिप्पणियों पर ध्यान देंगे जहां हिंदू और मुसलमान एक-दूसरे को गाली दे रहे हैं।
एक तरफ, ऐसे लोगों के खिलाफ एफआईआर दर्ज की जाती है जो सांप्रदायिक वायरस फैला रहे हैं लेकिन हर रोज ऐसी मानसिकता रखने वाले लोग पनप रहे है।
इस तरह के सांप्रदायिक वायरस फैलाने में सोशल मीडिया का बड़ा योगदान है, ट्विटर, फेसबुक, व्हाट्सएप और अन्य सोशल साइट्स पर केवल एक वीडियो बनाकर और संवेदनशील पोस्ट कर देते है सिर्फ केवल रातों-रात वायरल और प्रसिद्ध होने के लिए लेकिन उनके इरादे इतने खतरनाक हैं कि वे शांति और सद्भाव को खतरे में डालते हैं ।
भारत फेसबुक के लिए सबसे बड़ा बाजार है, लेकिन एक खतरा भी है क्योंकि आए दिन फेक न्यूज, पोस्ट्स शेअर होते रहते है। भारत सरकार द्वारा प्रौद्योगिकी कंपनियों को उनके प्लेटफार्मों पर दिखाई देने वाली सामग्री के लिए जवाबदेह रखने का प्रयास है – ऐसी सामग्री जो भ्रामक हो सकती है, भ्रम पैदा कर सकती है और यहां तक कि टी का नेतृत्व भी किया है।
हमें प्रतिबंधित करने की आवश्यकता है और कानून को और सख्त होना चाहिए ताकि लोग उन विचारों को व्यक्त करने से पहले हजार बार सोचें जो अन्य भावनाओं को चोट पहुंचा सकते हैं।
केवल एक सामान्य नागरिक के रूप से आइए हम अपने बारे में और अपने मन में घृणा की मात्रा के बारे में सोचें। कई राज्य दूसरे राज्य के लोगों से नफरत करते हैं, कई लोग प्रवासियों से नफरत करते हैं, हमारी जाति व्यवस्था आज भी कायम है।
हमारे घरों में ससुराल वाले अपनी बहू से घृणा करते हैं हमें लगता है कि ससुराल वालों को दुर्व्यवहार करने का अधिकार है। हम बस यह कहते हुए इस सब को अनदेखा कर देते हैं कि यह सामान्य है।
हम अब चीन से नफरत करते हैं, हम कहते हैं कि चीन एक साम्यवादी देश है लेकिन चीन में कोई भी इस तरह की मूर्खता करने की हिम्मत नहीं करता है। उनका कानून इतना सख्त है कि कोई व्यक्ति सार्वजनिक रूप से ऐसा लिखने या बोलने की हिम्मत नहीं करेगा।
मेरा अनुरोध है कि हमें अपनी शक्तियों और स्वतंत्रता का बुद्धिमानी से उपयोग करना चाहिए। हमने सिर्फ एक उदाहरण देखा कि कैसे हम नागरिकों ने सरकार को सुशांत के मामले को गंभीरता से लेने के लिए मजबूर किया अब मैं चाहती हूं कि बुद्धिजीवी लोग उठकर आगे आये और नफरत को रोकें।
Today is not just a normal day its the victory of the entire nation and a big win for justice, faith, democracy and hope.
Now, CBI is going to hold a dummy test at the crime scene. This is certainly a moment of joy also grief at the same time because we lost a beautiful soul.
Most of us weren’t a big fan of Sushant Singh Rajput but when we heard of his demise we were in shock. The mystery of his suicide and when we started to know more about him it left us all off in grief.
I remember a conversation with my friend, where I claimed that it’s not just a suicide as the person drank juice and did party last night she said that it’s difficult to figure out what goes in people’s mind.
From the stories of his depression to nepotism, his case took so sharp turns. While we understood shortly that “nepotism tool” is just being used to divert the attention of people. Finally, we have won, however, let’s have a look at the reactions:
Symbol of fate, victory or controversies and disputes..
Ram Janmabhoomi or Lord Ram’s birthplace is believed to be in Ayodhya from the epic Ramayana. Lord Rama is not only our Hindu God, believed to be the seventh avatar of Lord Vishnu but his name is constantly taken for the religious perspective in the political world. Very few people know that Ayodhya was the capital of Kosala in Buddhist time ( 5th – 6th BCE)
History of Ram Janmabhoomi:
I will mention in crux about the history of this sacred place as we all know about it since our childhood.
In 1528, the then Mughal emperor Babar built a mosque in this disputed land. It is claimed that there was a Hindu temple of Lord Rama so the Mughals demolished it. History had it that many temples were demolished by many foreign rulers who ruled our country.
In 1853, some people claimed that the Babri Masjid stands on the exact place of Lord Ram’s birthplace. That led to several riots and Britishers played the divide and rule policy very well then. Later, a decision was taken that the Muslims will pray inside the mosque and Hindus will worship outside the same.
After Independence, in 1949 idols of Lord Rama were found in the mosque. On which, Hindus claimed that Lord Rama manifested, on the contrary, Muslims blamed that someone kept the idols intentionally a day before. The government then sealed the disputed place to avoid unrests, riots and violence.
On 6th December 1992, supportersand political activists of BJP, shivsena and other Hindu political organisations destroyed the disputed building in the rally which resulted in several riots. Time to time, India has witnessed violence and turmoil regarding the land.
On 9th November 2019, the Supreme Court announced the verdict stating that the land belongs to the Government based on the taxes records and ordered to build a Hindu temple.
Then came August 5, 2020, which embarks as one of the most important dates in Indian political history of the BJP RSS ideological agenda.
Many of us support the Modi government, some oppose and there are a few who are neutral but being a Hindu I am very much pleased that this is a great decision taken by the government, not just because of political reasons but also it’s how you save Hinduism, 100-200 years from now people will remember this history and the temple.
Modi government has played some masterstrokes like the changes in Jammu and Kashmir as well.
Transitions and Evolution of India
28 years ago when the mosque was brought down, most of them never even thought about a temple would be built, many said it’s injustice, other institutions claimed to rebuild a mosque and punish those were involved in breaking it down.
Today, if we see, no one has opposed it, not even the opposition parties, secularists and in fact everyone has welcomed the decision. Even a few of my Muslim friends are also pleased with the reincarnation of the temple wholeheartedly.
The only opposition leader who has opposed the decision of the Supreme Court to construct a temple is AIMIM chief Asaduddin Owaisi. However, apart from that we found the entire nation to be united for the national project.
However, a post went viral claiming that Kerala government imposed a blackout barring the locals to watch the live telecast of Bhoomi pujan Ceremony.
As I have mentioned several times in my blogs that we have an enormous and vast abundance of keyboard warriors who simply post anything just to get views and likes. Media houses later found the post to be misleading.
So has Ram Mandir polarized national politics and are we heading towards a communist government or dictatorship?
Because we are a Democratic country we know that politics cannot just be polarized.
The question that arises in my mind, are we going to worship Modi as God?
Because he already has a huge fan base, many out of those are willing to worship him.
The downfall of Congress party because of the cell less torchbearer somehow makes us realise the hollowness and absence of a strong opposition party.
Genuine democracies do not have party-less democracies and genuine democracies do not have an ideology-less democracy.
Nevertheless, I came across an article, the headline just grabbed my eyeball:
At Ayodhya Bhoomi Pujan, Modi Became All-in-One; Proper Rituals Not Followed, Allege Pundits
The article claimed that a prime minister can attend such type of ceremony as a chief guest, while the rituals should have been followed by the religious administrators.
Shankaracharya’s were absent during the pooja. We all know India is now governed by one man. It’s not a team, party or group anymore. He takes his own decision and we are his followers.
Are we blind followers?
Nevertheless, the entire world celebrated the D-Day, even temples all across the US organised special events.
I am just a normal Indian citizen, I don’t support any political party as such, neither I am secular. I am simply a neutral person who simply observes the changes and behaviour within the society.
I simply raised a few questions and I would love it if you can share your views on the same.
The greatest gift you to yourself is making friends.
This blog is dedicated to my friends who turned out to be my family.
I am sure while reading this blog, there is a smile on your face thinking about your friends.
How annoying they are, right?
Still, they are so valuable to endure. A city we live in becomes so strange and difficult to live in without friends. If you close friends with whom you spent years and have witnessed the entire journey with you stand out to incredible.
Being an introvert person, I had fewer friends during school but yes out of those school friend one became my life partner and others became my family. I cried with them, laughed with them, we had parties together and they were always been there for me.
You were like my network, wherever I go you were always with me.You were there when I wanted you during the most important event of my life. You managed everything like a sister.
“Har Ek friend jaruri hota hai” be it in your school or college, office or locality if you lack friendship it becomes arduous and strenuous to sustain.
Any friendship that was born during the period of 17-25 lasts till the end. I truly believe in it.
Friends reduce stress and make you overcome your depression. Your friends influence your weight. I do agree on the part as when I am on a crash diet they also feel the urge of reducing weight but the same doesn’t apply to me. When I eat, I don’t care if my friend is spending hours in the gym or dieting. Share your thoughts, dirty secrets, passion with each other. A true friend is one who stands with you in all phases of life. Every decision you take, they guide you always.
You can’t discuss everything with your family members, but you can with your friend. People who care for you will find a reason to be with you. According to studies, close friends share 1% of DNA with you. Isn’t that great? Your close friend always understands when you are in danger. They also dislike the person whose equation is not good with you.
Not just an apple keeps a doctor away, friends also do. People with a large number of friends live longer. A mutual bond which grows with time.
On average, people have 3-5 best friends. I have six, what’s your score?
We are concerned about our friend, means a best friend is our responsibility, a sense of love and loyalty.
We get protective and possessive for our friend. We learn from each other, it’s more a commitment.
We urge to be in contact with each other, gossip, discuss and learn.
All I can say they are all family beyond blood relation.
Many great poets, authors have written books on friendship and one of the most popular show FRIENDS which was loved all over the places.
If you are missing your friend after reading this, remember your friend is a call away!!
I painted Lord Buddha on a bottle. It’s easy you can also give it a try.
Soak the empty bottle in water for 24 hours so that the label comes out and it gets clean.
To paint your glass bottles, you can use glass paint or acrylic paint.
On the first day, I painted the face of Lord Buddha here and formed the base.
Completed the front side. I have used both acrylic and glass paints. The base is formed by glass paints.
I am creating this bamboo tree so that the bottle gives a complete theme of Lord Buddha meditating somewhere in the forest which is surrounded by bamboo, trees, Bodhi tree and lotus.
Basically, I want to paint my entire imagination on this bottle. So after the painting is completed I filled the bottle with Led light. So I bought an LED cork light which is easily available on Amazon or Flipkart.
The clock ticked 11:50 pm on December 31st, and I was eagerly waiting to welcome the new year and explore 2020.
The year, 2019 gave me all the happiness, love and blessings and now was it’s time to depart. I was eager to find out what changes will the leap year brings to my life. Though North India was freezing the winters of Bangalore is much more pleasant.
Being new to the place, I had no friends and couldn’t decide to celebrate elsewhere and landed up hosting a party for myself at my cosy place. Then I didn’t know that this 2BHK flat will be the place where I will be locked for so many months. All festivals, parties and occasions will be celebrated only here.
With the beginning of the New year, I started job hunting and growing my small business simultaneously. I didn’t know what was striding towards us and I was specific for my job opportunities turning down several positions.
In January, all my Chinese friends and students went for their Chinese new year when I heard that a virus has emanated in the country from Wuhan. My friends from China kept apprised me about the situation and kept on updating me with videos and photos. Many of them approached me asking for masks availability as there masks were out of stock everywhere. The small MSME’s were in the loss and the owners were worried and tensed. I kept on supporting them mentally when students mentioned me as their “Soul teacher”.
Every morning their day started with authorities arriving at door-step for a temperature check. The first case of CoronaVirus was reported on 30th January in Kerala from a person who returned from Wuhan, China. Soon it spread in other parts of the country.
The team of WHO paid a visit to China and after return WHO tweeted that there is no human to human transmission. Despite the fact that the doctors of China mentioned that human transmission is possible. The entire world did trust the global organisation and relied on the statement.
Meanwhile, in the United States of Colorado and Nebraska reported mysterious drones in the sky.
The movie Parasite won the Oscar in January.
The first day of the year started with bushfires in Australia. Basically, the bushfire started from September 19 till March 20.
As the year started, on 3rd January, the U.S. drone strike killed General Qassem Soleimani raised tension with Iran.
On January 27, an agreement was signed between the government of India, Bodo groups and the Assam government to redraw and rename the BTAD in Assam.
Many applicants put the enrollment on hold as they informed that their banks are closed and they will be in lockdown. I lost all my students who were about to start the new batch. They said that as soon as the virus abolishes will get back to me. By then, the SARS-like virus has already a name and it known as COVID-19.
On 11th February, in Delhi, Aam Aadmi Party won the election by securing 62 seats out of 70 at Delhi Legislative Assembly election-2020.
The cocktail of NRC+CAA didn’t go well which ultimately resulted in Delhi riots.
The cause of the riots was hate speech, confrontations, CAA protests, provocations. The riot resulted in the death of 53 people and 200+ injured.
Well, we all know that the royal and golden guest Donald Trump arrived in India on 24 February. The event was addressed as “Namaste Trump”.
I celebrated my birthday without my friends but this time it was special. However, I went for dinner on the date. Meanwhile, my blogs were performing well especially the coronavirus blogs of mine and grabbed the eyeballs of many across the world.
India sealed Chinese borders and ban all flights flying too and from China.
Time flies by, I entered the month of Holi, yes the month of March.
In no time, the virus crossed the borders and spread to the USA, Europe and a few more countries.
India initially successfully managed to rein in Coronavirus spread but all went in vain when on 3rd March, 69 years old Italian spread the virus in Rajasthan.
Most of the MNC’s declared work from home. WHO declared 2019-nCov as a pandemic.
The government was taking all safety measures like temperature check, closed all mass gathering points, religious places, restaurants, pubs and bars, all educational hubs along with tourist places were closed.
India evacuated its citizens from China, Iran, Maldives and other countries.
By 18th of March, 7447 confirmed cases were reported with 239 deaths. Many celebrities and influencers were busy educating people to wear masks and use hand sanitizers. Social media and channels broadcasted educational videos and ads to make people aware of precautions and preventative measures.
Where so much was going through along with the blogs, I was also busy writing my E-novel Nillie and had its own fanbase from India, Egypt, Iran, China and a few more countries. Besides writing I was also giving interviews parallelly and luckily I got selected in multiple companies but I was more excited to clear the round of an MNC which was about to hire me as their marketing manager. They asked me to create an assignment in the final round and submit by 26th March on which my selection will prevail.
I was working day and night, understanding the company, requirements, as the job role was new for me and being experienced in sales the domain was new for me.
On 22nd March, Indian prime minister Narendra Modi addressed the nation and called for 21 days complete lockdown.
We were asked to stay at home, only essential items were available. With the announcement, I went to stock ration from the nearby stores and found people were busy in panic shopping.
After returning from the market, I woke up the whole night to prepare the presentation and was about to send at the EOD.
Early morning, I received mail from the HR where she mentioned that as Government has announced locking we are keeping our hiring on hold till the economic condition improves. I was devastated and shocked but somehow I already knew that this might happen. With this, all other companies froze the hiring, and I was jobless and hopeless where I decided to give blogging a try and find other opportunities in my business.
By 25th March, the world was gasping with the shortage of ventilators, noted personalities pledged and donated to the funds. Health infrastructure, of many countries, broke down. Countries like Italy, France, and entire Europe and the United States, lost the battle against the virus. While most of the people in the world we’re in lockdown situation in China started to get normal. People returned back to their businesses and public place resumed. But that didn’t bring much happiness, for international suppliers from China as they lost many contracts, no buyers were ready to purchase their products.
WHO follows the bigger power?
The world raised questions and criticised WHO over handling the pandemic and taking a long time to declare openly about the virus.
The question was if China found that the virus is humanly transmitted then why didn’t they inform the world beforehand?
By now, the world started speculating, assuming and creating stories about the virus. It was clear by now, that China has emerged as the most powerful country in the UN and has means to silence global institutions.
India is full of hypocrites so does our Bollywood. Recently, Abhay Deol slammed the celebrities who were mute on the condition of migrants, poor and needy but raised their voice to support black lives protest holding in the United States.
Abhay Deol shared the analysis to show how Indians are obsessed with skin lightening products.
According to the study, the obsession of India for skin lightening has turned to a medical problem.
I will admit that I am also obsessed with a lighter tone because that’s what our society demands. I remember at the early teenage years of mine, I was only 13-14 years old I wanted to be the fairer and fairer. Hence, I used to apply every type of creams, masks, packs and face wash that was available in my home.
One day, I thought of applying nail thinner to my face pack as I thought that thinner is powerful to remove nail polish so it has the ability to remove my acne and pimple marks. Hence I poured some thinner and applied the pack.
I didn’t know when I fell asleep, and the next morning I woke up as my face was burning. I ran towards the washbasin and was scared to find that my whole face was burnt down. After that, my father consulted our family dermatologist and went for 45 days of medication. After the incident, I stopped experimenting and till now I don’t use such creams or packs and prefer applying of minimal make-up.
Since childhood, I watch our favourite stars endorsing fairness creams.
Priyanka Chopra posted on her Instagram quoting George Floyd’s last words “Please I can’t breathe”.
Twitter and Instagram have also slammed Priyanka Chopra Jonas, have a look:
However, we are proud of some of our celebrities who have raised other concerns as well like Kiara Advani, Ileana etc..