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Domestic Violence has increased during lockdown.

There are two sides to every coin, on one side you find a happy relationship where the married couples are happy as they are able to spend time together.

As we are in the lockdown phase, many women are stuck to their houses, everyone doesn’t seem to have a simple and happy life. Some do survive in this toxic environment, where they are abused by family members and as everyone has not much now, some become victim and a few love to create problems.

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http://romieducation.com/2020/04/04/is-lockdown-making-your-depressed/

http://romieducation.com/2020/03/03/a-bride-in-a-hostile-family/

While people are avoiding the virus, they are also facing challenges by staying at home. Children are giving a hard time as they need a lot of attention and care, they love to play and get some time with friends. The lockdown has forced the kids to stay at home. They either watch television the whole day, fight with siblings, play at home or other problems.

During office con calls, I hear the voices of my seniors whole time asking their kids to be silent.

The kids don’t understand why their parents are unable to give them time when they are at home.

Women are in a greater risk of becoming a victim and similar incidents have been reported from different countries.

Based on my learnings from different articles shared by News18, The New York times, psychiatrists, views of my lawyer friends, opinions of some other friends and family members of mine, I thought of writing and sharing some useful tips:

But before I share the tips let’s first understand what are the different forms of abuse:

Abuse is not just about power and control, people do it out of the purpose to create troubles in other’s lives as well. A few families member can take advantage of this situation to create troubles in several ways, let’s see how:

  • Not providing shelter, driving them away from their house. Say Corona or no corona effect, we have witnessed such events where family members forced their daughter-in-law to leave the house which led her to live a miserable life.
  • Emotional and verbal abusing: Now as there is not much work, people have time, and instead of building and maintaining a healthy relationship a few choose to abuse others.
  • Family politics has increased, people have more time to call each other, gossip and play with other’s emotions leading to domestic terrorism or intimate terrorism.

I was taken aback when I read that a few are not providing masks to the women, allow them to wash hands or use sanitizer. They send the women out to buy groceries thinking that she might get infected by the virus and die.

Can you believe that? These Covidiots, don’t understand that if she contracts the same, all in her contact will also gets the same.

Many counties across the world like the UK, Brazil, Spain, China, the US, Italy, France, Australia etc are reporting a panicking rise.

As the burden of work for women has increased, rather than raising the hand to help, the perpetrators are loving to enjoy the time relaxing.

According to a sociologist who studies abusive relationships, domestic violence goes up whenever families spend more time together, such as the Christmas and summer vacations, she said.

As entire India is in a lockdown state, Neha found herself all the time in the kitchen working all the time and trying to resolve the problems or fighting with her husband.

In another house, Fatima is holding her 3 years and 11 years old child, her husband began to beat her and locked her along with the children in a room. The kids and mother are starving for three days.

Somewhere in Delhi, Twinkle’s husband got frustrated as he is unable to meet his friends, drink alcohol and enjoy outside food and releases his frustration on his wife, the poor girl was bleeding and marks were all over her body. As his husband chocked her, her neck was in pain.

According to a Beijing-based NGO dedicated to combating violence against women says that there are cases reported of insecure husbands, who are keeping their wives under surveillance.

My opinion:

I feel the cases are rising in countries like America, China and the UK as the women are brave enough to take a stand. In India, whenever a woman wants to make a decision, she first thinks about society, parents and children. Calling the police will be the last option.

According to The Guardian, in Hubei province, domestic violence has tripled down.

If you are reading this, please imagine:

  • Staying in fear with a person yet limited options to move away
  • Getting body-shamed and fat-shamed
  • Deliberate poking by family members to create trouble.
  • Abusing and criticising
  • Stating comments
  • Controlling by every means
  • Sexual assault.

A home which is the safest place to many but a few are trapped inside with an abuser.

As News18 shared contact numbers, hereby I have just copied and pasted here.

Here are some phone numbers that can help you:

Elder abuse

Help Age India: 1800-180-1253

Dignity Foundation: 080 2654 2229

Child abuse

If you suspect that a child might be facing or witnessing abuse at home, call the police at 100 or Childline at 1098.

Domestic Violence

Bengaluru

•NIMHANS Center for Well-Being – 9480829670

•Bembala – 99806 60548

•Parivarthan – 7676602602

•NIMHANS Perinatal Helpline – 8105711277

Mumbai

•iCALL – 9372048501/9920241248

•SNEHA – 98330 52684 / 91675 35765

Delhi

•JAGORI – (011) 26692700

•Sakshi Violence Intervention Center: (0124) 2562336/5018873

References:

https://www.news18.com/news/buzz/domestic-violence-has-increased-during-coronavirus-lockdown-heres-what-you-can-do-2566273.htmlhttps://www.news18.com/news/buzz/domestic-violence-has-increased-during-coronavirus-lockdown-heres-what-you-can-do-2566273.html

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2020/apr/09/uk-domestic-abuse-helplines-report-surge-in-calls-during-lockdownhttps://www.theguardian.com/society/2020/apr/09/uk-domestic-abuse-helplines-report-surge-in-calls-during-lockdown

https://www.motherjones.com/crime-justice/2020/03/domestic-violence-abuse-coronavrius/

https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/police-see-rise-domestic-violence-calls-amid-coronavirus-lockdown-n1176151

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Do you know, how much time we invest in social media during the lockdown?

Know the effects of using social media.

After the lockdown, everyone is active on social media, many of them are displaying their cooking talents including me.

A friend of mine wants to become a stand-up comedian, due to the busy schedule he could never give his time to nurture his talent. So now, he is utilising the social platform by sharing jokes, publishing videos on youtube.

Another friend of mine is learning art and painting from YouTube and sharing her talent with us.

Credit: Swati Gupta

We have increased our 87% usage and on average we spend 4-5 hours per day just on Facebook and WhatsApp.

And my beautiful girls are so busy, so many daily challenges are there to fulfil to make this world beautiful. Seeing their beautiful smiling faces makes us forget all the problems we are facing right jow.

Even the coronavirus finds it so angelic and delightful that they spare the girls who perform:

  • Saree challenge
  • No-make challenge
  • Mother-daughter challenge
  • Googles challenge
  • Couple challenge

By far, I have been receiving these challenges.

According to Business Today, Indians have turned to social media to pass their time.

Before the lockdown, social media usage was on average 150 minutes per day. However, in the first week of lockdown, the figures jumped to 280 minutes per day, showed a survey. The survey added that 75 per cent of people were spending more time on Facebook, Twitter and WhatsApp compared to the week before.

What people do in social media

In social media, people were largely consuming news and communicating with their friends and families as coronavirus grappled the country.

Our brain is restless, it needs an opportunity to do something. We are hunter-gatherers and social media gives us the opportunity to read, learn, watch, listen, share the post, upload etc..

Ego needs a platform to showcase itself, 80% of our online conversation are sharing our opinions, thoughts, self-appreciation, display of our talent.

After posting any picture we wait for likes and comment, a person like me after publishing a blog, I check the viewer’s stats.

According to research, lonely people are more social friendly.

Using Tiktok has increased despite the fact that it is a Chinese app and many of us are demanding of uninstalling it but people are spending their time making videos especially celebrities.

The demerit of Social Media

Extreme use of social media leads to depression.

Social media creates immense pressure. This is known as FOMO, a trendy new acronym used to describe anxiety of feeling left out, lacking talent, missing events. So the anxiety raises when we see people are doing much better in their lives and we start comparing it with others.

I hope many of us by far has experienced laziness and restlessness as we are using twitter, Facebook, Instagram a lot these days. Because this is a common symptom of being so active in social media.

A study from Harvard University showed that self-disclosure online boosts a part of the brain that also lights up when taking cocaine.

You might face sleeping disorders.

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Is lockdown making your depressed?

Know and Overcome with me.

If you have opened the link to read the blog, I can assume that you are unhappy and trying to find out if you are really depressed.

Mental health study shows that after the lockdown due to Coronavirus depression and anxiety has spiked.

The study found that 25 per cent of women and 18 per cent of men exhibited clinically meaningful symptoms of anxiety, 23 per cent of women and 21 per cent of men showed signs of depression, and 15 per cent of women and 19 per cent of men were stressed.

Reason of depression:

  • People with lower incomes have higher rates of depression, 32% have lost their income.
  • People are forced to isolate.
  • Free mind and no work attracts negative thoughts.
  • People are in fear and stigma that comes with the virus.
  • Many people who stay away from family in flats or PG’s are forced to stay away from their parents.
  • As they are all lockdown, they can’t even meet their friends or loved ones.

It was said that by 2020, depression will be one of the leading cause of death and disability.

Depression is the most common disability in women.

Symptoms of a depressed person.

A depressed person avoids eye 👁️ contact.

Exception: My close friend has a habit of looking towards the sky while talking. Seems like this rule doesn’t apply on her.

They will keep a distance from you and start feeling unloved and unwanted.

People who laugh even on silly jokes are most depressed.

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Decisions made subconsciously.

More prone to colds and illness than non-depressed people.

Changes in the sleeping pattern; either you sleep more or less. Hypersomnia or imsomnia.

You over-think and your mind creates stories that haven’t occurred.

You are not able to forgive someone.

More prone to harm themselves or having suicidal thoughts.

You get angrier, anxious, aggressive.

You feel hopeless and lose interest in everything.

The depressed person talks more slowly and keeps thinking.

Overcome from your depression:

The best medicine is Sunlight:

Sunlight helps in secreting serotonin. The most depressing season is winter.

Keep yourself busy.

Another important weapon: 🎮 Video Game

🍌Bananas & chocolates: Reduces stress.

Singing & dancing helps you to avoid anxiety & depression.

Dreaming and crying is good to come over depression.

I hope the blog has provided you with adequate information.

Being into depression is extreme pain. It kills us every time and every second. If you can make yourself fall into depression, you are the one who can overcome it.

Be your own counsellor, only you know what is best for you!!

Reference:

https://www.sheffield.ac.uk/news/nr/depression-anxiety-spiked-after-lockdown-announcement-coronavirus-mental-health-psychology-study-1.885549