हमने कभी गुलामी को अनुभव नहीं किया क्योंकि हम आज़ाद भारत में पैदा हुए है पर पल पल एक गुलामी महसूस कि है जो समाज कि जटिल प्रक्रिया ने समझाया है।
जहां एक और हम सबको पता है कि आज पूरी दुनिया कोरोना वायरस से लड़ रही है और हमारा देश उतार चढाव से आज भी जूझ रहा है।
एक तरफ जहां उभरते हुए एक कलाकार सुशांत सिंह राजपूत की मौत से सवाल उठते है निपोटिज्म पर तो दूसरी ओर हमारे न्याय व्यवस्था पर।
जहां राम मंदिर का निर्माण हुआ वहीं दूसरी ओर कहीं आग लगा दिया गया।
हम सभी जानते है कि देश करप्शन, गरीबी, सोशल इनिक्वालिटी, घरेलू हिंसा , असाक्षरता से पीड़ित हैं।
भारतीय समाज मुख्यतः पितृसत्तात्मक है पर ये केवल एक समस्या नई है में आज बात करना चाहती हूं हर घर में रोज होने वाली उन बातों को जिन्हें हम नजरंदाज कर देते है इसलिए कि हमें बात को बढावा नहीं देना ।
गलत ये नहीं है जब ये कहां जाए कि एक लड़की को ढंग के कपड़े पहने चाहिए पर कूटनीति और पाखंड तब होता है जब हम अपनी बेटी को बिकिनी पहनने कि भी अनुमति देते है और बहू को पल्लू करने बोलते है।
हमें ससुराल में कैसे रहना है इसकी सीख हम अपने बच्चों को देने से ज्यादा बहू को देना पसंद करते है।
माँ एक बहुत बड़ा शब्द होता है वो अपने बच्चे की हर संभव रक्षा करती है पर दूसरे घर से आई बेटी को अपमानित करती है और दूसरे घरवालों को भी बढ़ावा देती है वो गलत है साथ ही कहीं ना कहीं ये भी सच है कि एक औरत ही औरत की सबसे बड़ी दुश्मन है।
2020 में जीने वाले हमलोग सोच के मामले में आज भी 18 वीं सदी में जी रहे है।
अब हमें लड़की ऐसी चाहिए जो पढ़ी लिखी, सुन्दर और अच्छे घर से हो पर उसी के साथ गूंगी और बहरी भी होनी चाहिए।
रुढ़िवादी आज भी कायम है। छोटे शहरों और गांवों में पर्दा प्रथा का आज भी प्रचलन है। दूसरे की कामिया निकालना तो एक आम बात है पर अपनी कमिया नहीं दिखती। कहते है कि कोई सही नहीं और गलत भी नहीं क्योंकि अपने आप को कभी कोई गलत मानता ही नहीं है।
दहेज कि प्रथा तो काफी आम है और जो लोग आजकल दहेज नहीं मांगते उम्मीद करते है कि शादी में बहुत अच्छे गिफ्ट्स मिले और बहुत अच्छी शादी हो ताकि सबको दिखा सके भले ही एक पिता इसके लिए अपनी सारी जमा पूंजी ही ना लगा दे।
आज भी हमारे समाज में इतनी कुरीतियों और अन्धविश्वास को जगह मिली है कि लोग जादू टोना जैसी चीजों पे विश्वास करते है। नींबू मिर्च लगाना हो या फिर बिल्ली का रास्ता काटना हम सब मानते आए हैं।
जिस देश में देवी की पूजा होती है वहां पुजारिन काम दिखते है। लक्ष्मी घरेलू हिंसा कि शिकार है तो सरस्वती को पढ़ने नहीं दिया जाता। कितने घरों में आज भी औरतों का काम पे जाना गलत माना जाता है। आए दिन न्यूज में छोटे बच्चो के साथ हुए रेप की घटनाओं को पढ़ते है।
ऐसे बहुत से मुद्दे है जिनसे हमें आजादी आज तक नहीं मिली है मैंने तो संक्षेप में अपनी बात रखी हैं।
Current update: Just a few minutes before, Mumbai police arrested Ajaz Khan for allegedly uploading an objectionable Facebook post.
As per TOI, Ajaz khan has been charged under section 153A and others of the IPC for promoting enmity among communities. He was arrested for the same reason in last year, July.
He was summoned to Khar police station in connection to the comment he made on the Facebook live session.
It was said that while being live on Facebook he has made an objectionable comment over religion and tried to inflame a rift in society basis religion. This video has already been viewed by more than 20 lac viewers.
As by ABP Live, a police complaint has also been registered at Amboli Police station. An advocate, Ali Kaashif Khan has filed a written complaint against Rangoli.
Rangoli had stooped too low now for a cheap publicity stunt. The world struggling with a lot of issues due to Corona pandemic, Rangoli is busy garnering cheap publicity for herself and taking undue advantage of the situation with her malicious posts targeting one community.
Ali Kaashif Khan
Now it remains to be seen, will police arrest Rangoli or not on similar lines of the arrest of Ajaz Khan?
As we all know, Rangoli Chandel who is the sister of Kangana Ranaut whose account is suspended by Twitter. On the 15th of April, she tweeted
A Jamati died of Corona when police and doctors went to check their families they were attacked and killed, secular media,make these Mulla’s+ secular media stand in a line and shoot them dead…f****k the history they may call us Nazis who cares,life is more imp than fake image
In no time, the tweeted started getting likes and people shared and retweeted. The problem was that she didn’t share any information related to her statement.
Many of them reported against the tweet and requested Twitter India to suspend the account and Mumbai police to arrest her.
Let’s see the tweets of Farah Khan and other’s who reported about Rangoli’s statement and are now supporting Twitter India after the suspension of her account.
When Farah Khan, a jewellery designer tweeted and urged twitter India and Mumbai police to suspend the account. Rangoli did reply and indicated towards drugs.
Meanwhile, someone actually tweeted in a funny way by saying that Hrithik Roshan’s fans will be happy to know that Rangoli’s account is suspended.
Many came in support for Rangoli and now some of them want Twitter to consider people who abuse Hindu religion and Gods like Ajaz Khan. In fact, some of them even targeted Babita Phogat as well. Have a look
Do you think Ajaz Khan’s account shall be suspended?
Meanwhile, some have their own opinions:
Babita Phogat mentioned in her tweet that Coronavirus is the 2nd largest problem of India, illiterate Jamati’s ranks first.
Now people want the suspension of her account.
Meanwhile, have a look at some other recent tweets of Rangoli also it’s known that both sisters use the same account.
This morning, I read that the US commission has raised their concerns over the way India is fighting against Coronavirus.
According to a media report, a government-running hospital in Ahmedabad has separated the infected places on the basis of religion.
On this, official Spokesperson, Ministry of External Affairs, India blasted out on USCIRF to stop adding religious colour to our national goal of fighting the COVID 19 pandemic.
As if it’s a peremptory commentary on religious freedom in India is not enough, the USCIRF is now spreading misguided reports on the professional medical protocols followed to deal with spread of COVID19 in India. It must stop adding religious colour to our national goal of fighting the pandemic and distract from larger efforts. No segregation is being done in Civil hospitals on the basis of religion, as clarified by the Gujrat Government.
After reading this, I have a few questions in my mind, please answer me:
Aren’t we giving a chance to other countries, to put allegation against us?
Aren’t we responsible to fight discrimination on the basis of religion?
Should not we stop discriminating on the basis of caste and creed?
Forget about this virus, haven’t we been fighting on the basis of religion earlier? This is what we are, we have been fighting for years and while this virus is killing people, no matter their caste, creed or religion.
I am a neutral person, I neither understand politics nor interested in understanding it.
Let’s read what Head of ICMR, Dr Raman GangaKhedkar tried to tell us. I am trying to make you understand on the basis of logical and scientific factors. Not on the basis of religion and politics, let me explain what’s going on, so please read and understand:
Worry is relative phenomena if you ask me the background, the first case was on 27th January today we are exactly two and half months into the outbreak, you know the population density of our country, high level of migration that we have in our country, the proportion of people below the poverty line and staying in slums if you look at the world today, they are extremely worried how India is not showing so many cases.
If you compare our country with Italy, Spain, China at this point they were in the much worse stage. We are trying to flatten the curve. If you compare India with the US, they are economically much stronger than us.
Please understand the government has taken such a brave initiate. Our country is not as economically developed as the US, Europe, China yet more than 2.5 lac people have been tested.
The government immediately shut all businesses because life is more valuable than the economy and money.
Let’s forget about Muslims, aren’t we Hindus discriminate and abuse on the basis of caste, creed and culture? Intact state-wise basis within our own religion?
A Bengali brahmin girl fell in love with a Bihari brahmin boy. Now, read this carefully, this is a real-life story. They tried to convince their parents to earn their blessings and get married. Though the caste is same, religion is also the same now what was the issue :
They are from different states
The neighbouring States having cultural differences
Bihar was a part of Bengal once as Pakistan was a part of India but the same rivalry between the Bihari and Bengali is there.
So it became a continuous process, both the parties by that I mean the boy and the girl vs parents don’t come to the mutual track, they kept on fighting, arguing & convincing.
On the other side, the wind started to blow differently, family politics began, family members started to demean and disrespect each other. They try to break the bond by any possible means be it playing with emotions, character assassination, fabricating lies, mentioning names, body-shaming and so on.
So when both the families fight, many will sit and relax and enjoy the scene, some will take advantage out of it. People start commenting on the same way the US did.
This is how today our India is fighting, let not the rest of the world takes advantage out of it.
What’s wrong with Indians?
Is it so difficult to understand and obey the simple rules?
Team of doctors and health officials were pelted stones in different parts of our country.
Group of Nihangs, chopped off the hand of a police officer.
Recently, in Moradabad, a mob of around 150 people came and started throwing stones over team of doctors, attacked the ambulance and even attacked the cops, damaging the police car and ambulance.
However, 17 attackers have been arrested till now.
Salman Khan message to the nation-Do or Die
Salman Khan’s first interview for COVID-19 was published yesterday. He addressed the nation and raised his concerns.
You can watch the full video on YouTube:
He requested the citizens to stay at home, worship and pray at home.
Do you want to decrease the population of India starting with your own family?
He praised the doctors, bankers and all those who are working every day for us during this lockdown phase just to provide ease and support.
Let’s not fight, let’s not demean, time and again I am requesting the literates and educated mass of our society to get united and fight against Coronavirus, not with Communavirus or communa cancer.
There are two sides to every coin, on one side you find a happy relationship where the married couples are happy as they are able to spend time together.
As we are in the lockdown phase, many women are stuck to their houses, everyone doesn’t seem to have a simple and happy life. Some do survive in this toxic environment, where they are abused by family members and as everyone has not much now, some become victim and a few love to create problems.
While people are avoiding the virus, they are also facing challenges by staying at home. Children are giving a hard time as they need a lot of attention and care, they love to play and get some time with friends. The lockdown has forced the kids to stay at home. They either watch television the whole day, fight with siblings, play at home or other problems.
During office con calls, I hear the voices of my seniors whole time asking their kids to be silent.
The kids don’t understand why their parents are unable to give them time when they are at home.
Women are in a greater risk of becoming a victim and similar incidents have been reported from different countries.
Based on my learnings from different articles shared by News18, The New York times, psychiatrists, views of my lawyer friends, opinions of some other friends and family members of mine, I thought of writing and sharing some useful tips:
But before I share the tips let’s first understand what are the different forms of abuse:
Abuse is not just about power and control, people do it out of the purpose to create troubles in other’s lives as well. A few families member can take advantage of this situation to create troubles in several ways, let’s see how:
Not providing shelter, driving them away from their house. Say Corona or no corona effect, we have witnessed such events where family members forced their daughter-in-law to leave the house which led her to live a miserable life.
Emotional and verbal abusing: Now as there is not much work, people have time, and instead of building and maintaining a healthy relationship a few choose to abuse others.
Family politics has increased, people have more time to call each other, gossip and play with other’s emotions leading to domestic terrorism or intimate terrorism.
I was taken aback when I read that a few are not providing masks to the women, allow them to wash hands or use sanitizer. They send the women out to buy groceries thinking that she might get infected by the virus and die.
Can you believe that? These Covidiots, don’t understand that if she contracts the same, all in her contact will also gets the same.
Many counties across the world like the UK, Brazil, Spain, China, the US, Italy, France, Australia etc are reporting a panicking rise.
As the burden of work for women has increased, rather than raising the hand to help, the perpetrators are loving to enjoy the time relaxing.
According to a sociologist who studies abusive relationships, domestic violence goes up whenever families spend more time together, such as the Christmas and summer vacations, she said.
As entire India is in a lockdown state, Neha found herself all the time in the kitchen working all the time and trying to resolve the problems or fighting with her husband.
In another house, Fatima is holding her 3 years and 11 years old child, her husband began to beat her and locked her along with the children in a room. The kids and mother are starving for three days.
Somewhere in Delhi, Twinkle’s husband got frustrated as he is unable to meet his friends, drink alcohol and enjoy outside food and releases his frustration on his wife, the poor girl was bleeding and marks were all over her body. As his husband chocked her, her neck was in pain.
According to a Beijing-based NGO dedicated to combating violence against women says that there are cases reported of insecure husbands, who are keeping their wives under surveillance.
I feel the cases are rising in countries like America, China and the UK as the women are brave enough to take a stand. In India, whenever a woman wants to make a decision, she first thinks about society, parents and children. Calling the police will be the last option.
According to The Guardian, in Hubei province, domestic violence has tripled down.
If you are reading this, please imagine:
Staying in fear with a person yet limited options to move away
Getting body-shamed and fat-shamed
Deliberate poking by family members to create trouble.
Abusing and criticising
Controlling by every means
A home which is the safest place to many but a few are trapped inside with an abuser.
As News18 shared contact numbers, hereby I have just copied and pasted here.
Here are some phone numbers that can help you:
Help Age India: 1800-180-1253
Dignity Foundation: 080 2654 2229
If you suspect that a child might be facing or witnessing abuse at home, call the police at 100 or Childline at 1098.