हर लड़की की तरह नेहा के भी अपनी शादी और ससुराल को लेके बचपन से ही काफी सपने थे और आज पहली बार वो अपने ससुराल में कदम रख रही थी।
नेहा के पति ऋषि का भरा पूरा परिवार है 5 भाई बहन और बहुत से रिश्तेदार सब एक साथ रहते है वहीं नेहा मां पिता के प्यार में पली बढ़ी इकलौती संतान होने के नाते उसने कभी अपने घर पे इतने लोग देखे नहीं थे। उसने सोचा कि शायद उसे भाई बहन का भी प्यार मिल जाएगा।
ऋषि से नेहा ने अपने माता – पिता के इक्षा के विरुद्ध जा के शादी की थी उसकी मां ने बार बार समझाया था कि जिस घर को वो चुन रही है वहां जिम्मेदारी और रूढ़िवादी परंपराओं के अलावा कुछ नहीं है पर नेहा को समझ नई आया।
अपने ससुराल में घुसते ही सबने उसे बताया कि यहां घर के पुरुषों के सामने घूंघट ओढ़ कर चलना होता है और उनसे दूरी भी बना के रखना होता है। उसने कभी अपने घर में बचपन में अपने दादी को ऐसे घूंघट ओढ़े देखा था पर समय के साथ ये परंपरा चली गई थी।
ससुराल में आके उसे पता चला कि उसका कोई अपना कमरा तक नहीं है। पति से दूर हर रात दूसरी औरतों के साथ सो सो के परेशान होने लगी। उसे समझ में आने लगा कि उसकी मां कितनी दूरदर्शी और सही थी। बहू को ससुराल में घुसते ही मिलने लगा जिम्मेदारियों का ज्ञान पर एक नई बहू के सुख और सुभिधा का किसी ने नहीं सोचा।
कभी नेहा के घूंघट नहीं ओढ़ने पे पीठ पीछे बुराई होने लगी तो कभी कोई हर बात पे उसके पति से जा के शिकायत लगाने लगा। जिनके खुद के घर नहीं बसे और जो अपने ससुराल में पैर पटक के आयी वो सभी औरतें भी नेहा को अपनी अच्छाई के प्रमाण पत्र, ज्ञान और ताने देते नजर आए।
सबने बताया कि उसका ये ससुराल बहुत अच्छा है और ज्यादा पाबंदी भी नहीं पर नेहा तो शायद दूसरे ग्रह से है जहां के लोग इज्जत देते है, बहू कि सुख सूभिधा का ध्यान रखते है, जहां बहू को लक्ष्मी माना जाता है।
नेहा को यहां कई चेहरे दिखे, बिन पैदी के लोटे दिखे जो की एक जगह से सुनके दूसरी जगह लुढ़कते रहते, पंचायत करने वाले,अपनी सुभीधा देखने वाले, दूसरो पे आरोप लगाने वाले और सबसे बढ़ी बात पूरा घर एक दूसरे पे कीचड़ उछालने में लगा रहता और फिर उसी कीचड़ में एक साथ गले मिला के रहते थे।
इन सब के बीच बस एक चीज अच्छी थी नेहा के लिए वो है ऋषि।
उसे एक समझदार और अच्छा पति मिला था पर क्या नेहा इतनी सारी घर कि जिम्मेदारी उठा पाएगी?
क्या नेहा को चुपचाप सुनना चाहिए?
क्या ये कोलाहल वाला ससुराल नेहा के दांपत्य जीवन को प्रभावित करेगा?
Recently, I saw the ads of Four more shots, please! again. Last year, my friends did praise about the web-series but I assumed that it might be inspired by Kareena Kapoor’s Veerey Di Wedding and I decided to skip it because I wasn’t interested in watching any show based on feminism which shows how women have all rights to be badass.
This year, as we are in lockdown there is sufficient time to watch shows which varies by our taste.
So I started with Season 1 last Thursday night and finished the last episode of season 2 on Saturday afternoon.
I just loved the web-series. I tell you why?
Review in my way:
I am not going to write here the review for that you can just google it and find many articles and blogs on the same. Mine is a little twisted, I am not here to simply narrate the story but to make you understand why we must watch it. This web series is about four girls and the journey of their life. Why I liked the plot so much is because
All the actors have done justice to their acting.
Hats of to the leading ladies, all the four have justified their given roles and are a perfect fit.
Damini (Sayani Gupta), Umang (Bani J), Anjana (Kirti Kulhari) and Siddhi (Maanvi Gaagro) so the four girls met at a bar a few years back and bonded together.
The beautifully scripted storyline begins with someone’s success to others sorrow and sadness due to personal problems.
It actually shows the bond of friends and how important is it to have real friends in life.
Many of the times, we listen to others and do what pleases us because we trust a stranger more than others and we intentionally like to fall in the trap. Just like Anjana, who believed in someone.
Sidhi’s character shows how the family controls her since childhood and how she deals with body-shaming and finally starts to love herself.
In our society, we girls are grown and adapted the way our family and friends body-shame us, make fun of us. If we do something good, our own family doubt on our capabilities.
In my family, I am being fat-shamed and body-shamed since childhood. In many families, even in-laws mock and body-shame.
One of my cousins mocked at me for having readers and having fans on my page. Where this blog is even liked by Rangita Pritish Nandy and Maanvi Gagroo.
One of my knowns keeps abusing and threatening me when I give my views and opinions related to politics.
Though it was not required the way she gained the confidence, learned self-love and discovers her skills and abilities.
Bani J as Umang is a bisexual and falls in love with Samaira (Lisa Ray).
Umang’s character was actually interesting, it showed how she wanted to live her life with her own individuality. Being a Punjabi village girl she transformed herself, sustained and survived. Though her partner initially refused to admit their relationship later on everything goes well and they head towards marriage.
The one thing, that Umang said, at last, was not to choose a person who keeps career over you and try to mould someone according to own. I fully agree, there must be mutual concern and agreement. A relationship must always be equal in the sense of loving, adjusting, understanding, compromising and sacrificing. I can say that Bani was a real fit for the character.
Damini’s character is about a girl who is a journalist and founder of her company. She has a strong will, striking confidence, responsibility and maturity. Her, life shows different shades related to different topics be it office politics, anti-nationalism, righteousness. She is someone having a strong will-power, writing about and standing by the truth.
The story covers topics like misogyny, inequalities, trolling. It’s actually difficult for girls to survive even in Modern India where there are so many idiots in this world. Even on Facebook, so many people keep messaging, calling continuously unnecessarily from Facebook messenger.
Anjana is a lawyer and excellent at her work, however, her personal life is a total mess and she tries to fix out all the issues with her ex-husband. Trying to equally balance her life.
Being a successful lawyer, even she deals with the misogynistic behaviour of her boss. In my working career, even I have faced the same issue where higher authorities recommended my name for promotion based on my performance, but my immediate boss suggested a male colleague of mine because he could handle it better as he will not have to deal with home responsibilities.
Her character throws life about how difficult it is to raise a child, being a single mother, open relationship, infidelity, adultery.
I just loved her dress sense along with her makeover and lip-shades.
This is a complete entertainment during the lockdown. You can easily complete watching all the episode in just a days time.
Apart from the characters, you will love the editing, story-plot, sudden change of emotions in the storyline.
It’s a complete binge time for girls. You can rejuvenate your girl gangs memories while watching it and miss your friends.
Four more shots is bold, witty, fun to watch, delightful, glamourous, it gives you a message between all the glamour and shines of life.
Cinematography is very good.
While you are sitting at your homes you will be happy to virtually tour Istanbul, Jaipur, Goa and even you will love them to watch walking freely on streets and spending time in bars.
The web-series will remind you of FRIENDS as well. Just the coffee shop turned into a bar.
The series will make you miss your sleeping over at friends place, gossip and sharing.
Make you miss your friends and recollect the memories when they were with you during your wedding.
It will make you miss and encourage to plan a trip after things get normal.
It was a beautiful morning, spring is approaching. Though it’s still cold in Shanghai yet everyone is getting ready for their office.
Shanghai, is the biggest city in China and the global business hub. Many big and small businesses run over there. People from different countries, villages, small towns and cities migrate to Shanghai in the search of work. A showpiece “Shanghai” is an example of booming industries of China.
Living in Shanghai has always been romanticised and another romantic story was about to start. The air was fresh, blowing romantically.
Jack Chen, a handsome and charming young boy who also lives in Shanghai is also getting ready for his office like all the other days. He stepped out of his house and walked towards his office. He was leaves nearby his office. He wants to earn lots of money and start his own business soon. He works hard every day and in the spare time, he loves to devote his time in personality development. He is a fun-loving guy and a helpful lad but still single in search of a right partner.
Today, as usual after marking his attendance he grabbed a cup of coffee and sat down on a chair in the pantry and kept reading something and scrolling down his messages on wechat.
Suddenly he heard the beautiful voice of a girl and looked up coming out from his mobile screen.
Girl: Can I sit next to you? (She pointed towards a chair lying beside Jack, all the chairs were occupied and that was only vacated).
Jack: (Hesitated and then stood up to great) Yes, of course, you can!
The girl liked the chivalry of Jack and sat with a smile. She initiated the conversation with Jack.
Girl:My name is Taurus, so you will work on the sales team?
Jack:Hello Taurus! It’s a unique and beautiful name, I work with the International sales team.
They continued to talk and after they finished the coffee left the pantry. When they walked by, Taurus giggled and laughed at Jack’s jokes and both exchanged their numbers.
They started to like each other’s company and spend time more time together.
One day, while they were talking, Taurus suddenly asked Jack:
Taurus: Why are you still single? Why you don’t find a girl for yourself?
Jack: Why I will find another girl for myself when I have you if you like, we can know each other far better.
Jack smiled and pulled Taurus closer, her hands tingled when he grabbed.
Taurus: Nice lines! Sure, we can do that.
Days passed and holidays started for Qingming festival, Taurus and Jack went shopping, watched movies, played games together. Jack realised more and more that she is the soul-mate. He thought to get propose her.
Already it was late evening they headed towards home. Jack dropped Taurus at her home but then he parked his car a little far from her home. He wanted to walk with her, it was drizzling, both started to walk. Jack grabbed Taurus’s hand and they both walked silently. Suddenly Jack stopped and said,
Jack: The way I feel now, I never felt before. I am the happiest person when I am with you. I always keep thinking about us all the time.
So will you, many years from now still hold my hands in yours and walk with me in all the phases of life? Will you marry me?
Taurus: (whispered) You are the one I can think about, you are very gentleman with a great sense of humour. She giggled and continued, ” I like your sun sign as well, I read somewhere a Piscean can be an ideal life partner. I love you! I will marry you!
After some time, Jack decided to start his own business, Taurus supported her. They both started their own business. They travelled to different parts of Asia for business and leisure. Soon after they returned from Thailand, they got engaged.
A few days later, Taurus discovered that she is pregnant. They went to the Philippines for photo-shoot.
While Jack and Taurus were looking at the sky holding hands, Jack said:
Jack: I am the happiest person on Earth today, and I will keep you always happy. I promise you, my fiancee, I will take you to all coasts of the world.
They soon got married and now they are expecting the baby in August.
All my best wishes to Jack and Taurus for their beautiful journey of life!!
As we know, we all are fighting with the novel Coronavirus and maintaining social distance, actually, this is something to something to wonder about how we will behave.
The coronavirus has taught us to live a simple life, staying at home is not so difficult.
But then, will things get to normal as it was?
The well-known Bollywood movie director Shaujit Sarkar has his own worries. The concern he has actually can change the whole pattern of movies, web-series and all similar kinds. It will not just affect Bollywood but all other movie industries in this world.
Shoojit Sarkar wrote on this post- ‘When all that is over, then how will the cinema world shoot the intimate scene in such surroundings. Especially intimate, kissing/hugging scenes. How far or close to? Or will they be dishonest on storytelling in these intimate scenes for some time? ‘
Many celebrities and individuals are reacting to the subject.
Diya Mirza wrote – ‘Guru, your complete means of movie making is integral! So many individuals will come collectively one after the opposite to create a second of unity and efforts. You are speaking about intimate scene … how will that change? Will we arrive carrying masks and gloves? Only time will inform.
Other commented that the flowers of ’70s will be back. However, other’s are hoping that there will be some creativity on that part.
An individual raised another concern
How will the industry shoot at all, if they ban gathering of 50 or more people?
Let’s forget about the virus, politics, problems for some time. Let’s focus on the most important scenario, we all are getting bored.
Every day I travel to my current working space, i.e. kitchen and then move to the other station which is my sofa where I sit and work. This is my life, sometimes I get so bored and feel the urge to go out like before, get back to normal life and that makes me restless. What actually makes me forget my restlessness is food and watching movies or shows. So after watching all the shows over Netflix, Amazon Prime, I have now decided to watch a few movies and rejuvenate my memories and time when I did watch them. I am trying to understand and compare how I felt after watching the movie then and now.
For example, I started with watching a movie Nilkamal, when I was a kid maybe 8-9 years old, my parents were watching it on Doordarshan so I recalled that I always wanted to watch that movie because it’s a horror movie so now’s the time, however, after watching this classic movie, I can say the dialogues were so cheesy then, the ghost was unable to scare me, but the in-law’s behaviour is still same.
So based on my experience, I am sharing the list of movies I liked to watch again:
1. 3 Idiots
This movie was released in 2009, I was a college student then and I remember that this movie was a birthday party-treat by my friend. So this movie enacts the parallel drama of the present and past of three students. I did love watching this movie and can watch it again and again.
Even our life is out of control now, so I want to blow the whistle and say ” Aaalll..is well…!!”.
2. Zindagi na Milegi dobara
This is a 2011 movie, 3 childhood friends reunited for a trip, I do relate to it because of my childhood friend, “Twinkle” wants to plan a trip to Goa just every month, but some or the other way, it always gets cancelled. We are so busy every time, we earn and spend, we wake up and go to the office, even my dreams are often hindered by my MD asking about the sales target I achieved this month.
It’s a 2012 film, all the actors did justice to the character they played. A comedy-drama film and how beautifully this movie plays with emotions, at one point it makes you laugh and suddenly makes you cry or sad. This movie has taught us so many lessons of life.
I was in school when the movie came with a bang of spicy and romantic songs, while loved to dance and watch the dance “Beedi”, on the other, I used to get romantic with my imaginary lover on the romantic track ” din doobe na”.
Even now I loved the acting of Saif Ali Khan and Vivek Oberoi.
I watched the movie on Netflix with my parents, loved everything about this movie. I think you will agree with my point. This action-packed movie was released in 2015.
6. Bahubali-The conclusion
The sequel was released in 2017, this time the movie had more romance along with the action scenes. However, I liked the first part more.
7. Udta Punjab
This movie got leaked before its release, it was banned in many states. You must watch this movie, four parallel tracks and lives revolving around one factor. Too good acting of Shahid and Alia loved to watch this again.
8. Kabhi Khushi kabhi gam
I loved to watch the melodramatic movie, K3G, I was a child when the movie released but now I know why I loved watching this movie 😝
9. Ye Jawani hai Diwali
I recently watched this movie on Netflix, I want to go out for a trip that’s my feeling.
10. 1920-Horror movie
I loved the acting of Adah Sharma, in this movie. I don’t why, I have watched this movie so many times but still, I love to watch it. Even it seems scarier and sometimes funny to me than Grudge-franchise or Conjuring.
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There are two sides to every coin, on one side you find a happy relationship where the married couples are happy as they are able to spend time together.
As we are in the lockdown phase, many women are stuck to their houses, everyone doesn’t seem to have a simple and happy life. Some do survive in this toxic environment, where they are abused by family members and as everyone has not much now, some become victim and a few love to create problems.
While people are avoiding the virus, they are also facing challenges by staying at home. Children are giving a hard time as they need a lot of attention and care, they love to play and get some time with friends. The lockdown has forced the kids to stay at home. They either watch television the whole day, fight with siblings, play at home or other problems.
During office con calls, I hear the voices of my seniors whole time asking their kids to be silent.
The kids don’t understand why their parents are unable to give them time when they are at home.
Women are in a greater risk of becoming a victim and similar incidents have been reported from different countries.
Based on my learnings from different articles shared by News18, The New York times, psychiatrists, views of my lawyer friends, opinions of some other friends and family members of mine, I thought of writing and sharing some useful tips:
But before I share the tips let’s first understand what are the different forms of abuse:
Abuse is not just about power and control, people do it out of the purpose to create troubles in other’s lives as well. A few families member can take advantage of this situation to create troubles in several ways, let’s see how:
Not providing shelter, driving them away from their house. Say Corona or no corona effect, we have witnessed such events where family members forced their daughter-in-law to leave the house which led her to live a miserable life.
Emotional and verbal abusing: Now as there is not much work, people have time, and instead of building and maintaining a healthy relationship a few choose to abuse others.
Family politics has increased, people have more time to call each other, gossip and play with other’s emotions leading to domestic terrorism or intimate terrorism.
I was taken aback when I read that a few are not providing masks to the women, allow them to wash hands or use sanitizer. They send the women out to buy groceries thinking that she might get infected by the virus and die.
Can you believe that? These Covidiots, don’t understand that if she contracts the same, all in her contact will also gets the same.
Many counties across the world like the UK, Brazil, Spain, China, the US, Italy, France, Australia etc are reporting a panicking rise.
As the burden of work for women has increased, rather than raising the hand to help, the perpetrators are loving to enjoy the time relaxing.
According to a sociologist who studies abusive relationships, domestic violence goes up whenever families spend more time together, such as the Christmas and summer vacations, she said.
As entire India is in a lockdown state, Neha found herself all the time in the kitchen working all the time and trying to resolve the problems or fighting with her husband.
In another house, Fatima is holding her 3 years and 11 years old child, her husband began to beat her and locked her along with the children in a room. The kids and mother are starving for three days.
Somewhere in Delhi, Twinkle’s husband got frustrated as he is unable to meet his friends, drink alcohol and enjoy outside food and releases his frustration on his wife, the poor girl was bleeding and marks were all over her body. As his husband chocked her, her neck was in pain.
According to a Beijing-based NGO dedicated to combating violence against women says that there are cases reported of insecure husbands, who are keeping their wives under surveillance.
I feel the cases are rising in countries like America, China and the UK as the women are brave enough to take a stand. In India, whenever a woman wants to make a decision, she first thinks about society, parents and children. Calling the police will be the last option.
According to The Guardian, in Hubei province, domestic violence has tripled down.
If you are reading this, please imagine:
Staying in fear with a person yet limited options to move away
Getting body-shamed and fat-shamed
Deliberate poking by family members to create trouble.
Abusing and criticising
Controlling by every means
A home which is the safest place to many but a few are trapped inside with an abuser.
As News18 shared contact numbers, hereby I have just copied and pasted here.
Here are some phone numbers that can help you:
Help Age India: 1800-180-1253
Dignity Foundation: 080 2654 2229
If you suspect that a child might be facing or witnessing abuse at home, call the police at 100 or Childline at 1098.
We all are locked in our homes to fight against Corona for 21 days. This is a hard time for many couples who are not together at this moment. Some stay with their parents and even talking on the phone has become difficult for them. Some couples are staying in a long-distance relationship and they are away from their love as well as family. Everyone wants this phase to over and get back to our normal lives again. I have always been in the long-distance relationship hence anytime we meet it’s our Valentine’s Day. In all these eleven years, I have always shown my affection, love, care by sending gifts through courier or by online portals. You need to cherish the moment of reunion and celebrate it more than any other events of your love life. So when are you sitting at home idle you can show your talent on some of the arts and crafts. Before I share my ideas with you, let’s first know more about the origin of this festival. Earlier formal messages or letters were sent on the day. Then cards replaced messages. 1. Ideas to celebrate after lockdown : After lockdown still, it’s not safe to visit crowded places, if still, you want you can wear a mask and go for a long ride. So this suggestion is mainly for boys. 2. Gift something to your girls, as they didn’t go shopping for a long time or you can pamper her by booking Urbanclap services.3. Now, this is creative and girls can do. I have done this and sent a big box to my boyfriend a long time back. I remember when I was in graduation and bought 14 different gifts included, shirt, sweater cards on all 8 days, roses, chocolates to tell him how much you missed him.4.Handmade gifts: You can make handmade cards, a lot of videos and image you can search on YouTube and Pinterest where they teach you how to make cards or gifts. Explosion card box made by Mimi I made this explosion card 3 years back, so it’s not in good shape now. You can easily learn to make it or you can order in Amazon there you will find readymade cards or can be ordered as well. Similarly, you can make handmade cards, sketch and paintings. Fabric painting on bed sheet by Mimi 3. Scrapbooks: A beautiful idea to write your feelings, and rejoice the memories spent together by attaching pictures of all moments in a scrapbook is something that can make your lover shed tears. https://images.app.goo.gl/on3pTFJSqguCQzKCA4. Love message bottles You can write short messages and pour them in cute bottles and gift them to your lover. Again you can find this kind of gifts on Amazon and other online portals. Combine all small gifts and fill them in a basket, tie the basket with ribbon and your gift is ready. 5. Start: An innovate idea of gifting is you can find many apps where you can find how the starts were positioned on the day you met or said “yes”, got married and you can take a print out and frame it. Gift this to your love. https://www.facebook.com/323659025198518/posts/494823931415359/ 6. Cook romantic dishes when you meet: Pamper your lover or husband with homemade food, bake a romantic cake, prepare some favourite dishes for him and add more zest, seasoning, enthusiasm and sweetness in your relationship. You can comment so that our lovers can get more ideas to celebrate the beautifully.